Here We Are, Just Playing in the Mud

Transition– The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines this as “a change from one state or condition to another”.

I think a disclaimer with the words “hectic,” “wild,” and “unpredictable” should be added to the definition, but that’s why I’m not in charge of writing the dictionary.  Haha.

Why do I mention this? Well this particular word hits the nail on the head for describing my family at this point in time. Want some examples?

  • B is on his last 11 weeks of college. He’s beginning the transition to college graduate status and the job hunting has commenced.
  • We are planning to move out of my dad’s house around the same time as graduation. We’re slowly transitioning into pack and purge mode.
  • Little H is transitioning to a larger size in clothes and I don’t have any winter gear for her yet.
  • And finally, I’m transitioning from working to stay at home mom, which comes with a whole set of its own transitions! (Whew, two in one sentence!)

Let me just say, none of these changes are easy. Well, shopping for baby clothes may be, but it’s emotionally rough on me to see my two month old growing up so fast!

With B’s 15 credits, full time job, and senioritis hitting its all-time high and my working situation still being sorted out two months after baby H was born (this is a whole other post for some other time…), to say our wheels just keep spinning in the mud would describe it perfectly.

Each time we try to make a decision, we are reminded that something out of our reach is preventing us from moving ahead. And the rut keeps getting deeper…

For the first time in 2 ½ years of marriage positivity hasn’t been the easiest to maintain.

So what has this change in tide taught us so far?

  1. Communicate, communicate, communicate. And then communicate some more.

B and I have found out time and again that when we are not overly clear about something, it tends to get lost in translation. Since we don’t see each other much throughout the week, we both get different ideas and forget to share them sometimes. I would rather mention a topic repeatedly, than forget to say it. (Sometimes I keep a talking list so I remember each of my extremely important topics—this often includes the status of little H’s poos for the day haha)

  1. Be together as a family whenever we can.

B’s school and work schedule leaves weekends somewhat open for us. Yes, he still has homework, but he likes to take one whole day off to spend with H and I. I try to have fun plans lined up for us, like last weekend we went to a pumpkin festival. (I LOVE fall!)

  1. Spend time together just the two of us, too!

After little H falls asleep, the rest of the night is devoted to B and myself. Sometimes we talk and sometimes we just cuddle up and watch Modern Family together. Although it is hard to stop looking at our beautiful daughter’s face, we have realized the importance of the two of us being together without her. I haven’t quite become okay with allowing a baby sitter to watch her for a few hours, but this will be coming in the future.

  1. Pray without ceasing!

Since God is the creator of our lives, doesn’t it make sense that we ask Him for help getting us through this? Right now B and I are working on praying together. This is another way for the two of us to grow closer and really learn what is on the other person’s heart. Personally, I am constantly reminded of my favorite Bible verse: Philippians 4:6-7, which says “Have no anxiety at all, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God. Then the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

The light is at the end of the tunnel and we are getting a few steps closer to it every day. Until then, all we can really do is let the wheels keep spinning and enjoy playing in the mud rut.